Christmas is crowning the end of 2020 and the New Year’ s celebrating a brand-new promising year and often the conversation comes to resolutions! Promises we give to ourselves for the months ahead and goal setting for improving our self-image!
A New Year’s resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere in which a person resolves to continue good practices, change a habit considered bad or harmful, accomplish a personal goal, or improve their life.
Of course, this is not a recent invention, Babylonians used to make promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts. Also, the Romans began each year by making promises to the god Janus, for whom the month of January is named. To make the long story short, humans throughout their civilized existence never stopped relating new beginnings with the chance for change and growth, so do we!
Before we go ahead and discuss New Year’s resolutions it is helpful to review the year that just passed and assess all the “experiences” we have been trough. And Gosh what a heck of a year it’s been! A pandemic, deaths, lockdowns, restrictions and the list with all the problems and challenges is endless.
However, as a person genuinely optimist I like to focus on the positives; and 2020 has also brought some very promising changes. Although Covid-19 was the major issue in everyone’s life the last moths, some of the consequences it brought had a positive impact, like the restrictions on movement that reduced carbon footprint and lessened the environmental pollution. The work from home status made the whole fashion world (number one pollution factor) to turn to sustainability in order to become viable.
Also being locked in the house and restricted made us re-evaluate our circle and the people who really matter to us! So goodbye fake friends, hello worthy keeping and valued friends and family. Evaluation that of course didn’t happen just for the people around us, but also for the person within -ourselves-. What we value most, what is important and should be appreciated and prioritized and what should be changed.
In other news a lot happened when it comes to social changes, like the #BlackLivesMatter movement and the increase in the number of women who hold leadership and decision making positions, great example is the recent US Vice President Kamala Harris, the first woman in the American history to hold such an authority!
In any case 2020 decided to say goodbye with a major good-news like the invention and approval of the covid-19 vaccine and a rare phenomenon called the Bethlehem Star which occurred in 21/12 and last time was seen back in 1226. So, there is really silver lining, we just have to look for it. Wasn’t all bad the last 12 months.
Now that we have a better view of 2020, let’s discuss about 2021 resolutions; and because I like to have a rounded view of things, I have made a research online in order to get some information and inspiration. What I came across were actual to do lists of things to adopt and changes to achieve the #newyearnewme motto! However, I will not attempt to give you a to-do list, but rather a kind advice to take with you on the journey to bettering yourself.
So, first things first, it is very important accept and love yourself and to prioritize your needs and wellbeing. That said, it is not the time to be demanding and too harsh on yourself, as it has been a very challenging year. It is best to acknowledge the stress and the negative emotions, accept and let go. A therapeutic process that is necessary in order to move forward and build on a blank canvas.
As soon as you feel ready and have a clear view of what you want to succeed the year or months ahead then sit down and write on a piece of paper your resolutions. Because 50% of the NY resolutions fail, I would suggest starting with short-term and achievable targets and throughout the year do not stop checking on the outcome, assess and re-assess your targets.
Instead of aiming to lose weight, get fit and sexy, focus on your wellbeing and look after yourself, following healthy eating and enjoying an activity or exercise that makes your heart beating with excitement. Remember, if you want to achieve your goals you should avoid bad influence, and find likeminded resolvers, example join a hiking community, or find a running buddy. That said, it is very important to give up bad habit: smoking, drinking, emotional eating, sleeping pills etc. If you feel that you cannot succeed on your own, then you can ask for help.
Taking into consideration what the pandemic taught us, I would advise to create a safety net, financially wise, namely sort out your debts and start saving an amount of money every month, even something that now seems insignificant at the end of the year will be considerable. Also, you can go after a side job or try and earn some money from your hobby. Another major impact of the pandemic was the digitization of every aspect in the work life, hence having very good IT skills is proved necessary, so in case you are not familiar, do go for training and enhance your IT abilities. At the end of the day, learning new things keeps your brain young!
When you have decided about your resolutions, make a plan and look out for potential roadblocks you will come across along the way. It is important to stick to it; and when you get tired do not quit, rest, start small and be flexible when life gets in the way.
And because I like to be honest and open, I have been through a lot this year and most of the time I was concealing my stress by keeping busy. I can now address all the negative emotions and deal with the pain that this mess caused to my life and to my so highly – appreciated routine. I would like to make promise to myself to drink more water, learn to make homemade pizza, support local and small businesses like @stylemyscrunchy, keep making sustainable choices and be close and available for those who matter!
I would try and stay positive and if I cannot, I will just stay calm!
Hey, we made it through! Let’s say goodbye to 2020 and welcome 2021 with a quote: “When life is sweet say thank you and celebrate, when life is bitter say thank you and grow” (Shauna Niequist, New York Times best-selling author).